The Cost of Surrendering the Pronoun War
There are multi-generational consequences to the collective denial of the truth.
There is a claim being made throughout the gender war that if we merely comply with the requests of trans people, they will experience validation and peace, but the opposite is true. Using incorrect pronouns at their request reinforces a delusion and denies them the validation of their own intrinsic identity. I remain unconvinced that the moral treatment of one who is having an identity crisis is to join him in denying himself.
Using the correct pronouns to describe someone (based on biological reality) is not an act of hatred. It’s an act of compassion. It’s the audible recognition of the humanity of the person being described and his intrinsic dignity. Effectually, it’s saying “I accept you, the real you, as you are, even during a time when you are unwilling to accept yourself. You’re not a mistake and you’re not broken.”
It’s a statement that while the person with gender dysphoria is clearly in pain, we won’t engage and become complicit in their self-denial, because that would be a disservice to them, and an offense to God.
Those in the LGBT movement have succeeded in creating the naming conventions that reinforce this false idea of compassion. They use terms like “pronoun hospitality” to describe the act of using the incorrect pronouns, awhile using “deadnaming” and “verbal violence” for those who refuse to comply with their ideological rewriting of the language.
To use the incorrect pronouns at the request of the individual is to agree to participate in a delusion, and to walk in a lie alongside them. When this is done on a larger scale, society descends into something more akin to mass hysteria, for it has lost all touch with truth. It no longer cares nor seeks to acknowledge that truth, favoring tolerance in its own right as a higher ideal. When society surrenders what is for the cowardly complacency of what it wishes were true, those who suffer most are the next generation, who are no longer aware of the lie that their forebears surrendered to.
Instead of participating in a lie for cowardice’s sake, the next generation will begin building on a foundation of those lies, believing them to be true. When a generation was wrought with the belief that homosexuality and heterosexuality are equally proper and righteous, should anyone be shocked when that generation extrapolates that so too must be transgenderism or all matter of perverse sexual attractions? Should we shudder at the notion that some now consider pedophilia as merely “minor attraction”, as if it were victimless, mundane, and even equal? We should, but we also should shudder at the larger reality: that we have raised several generations on a foundation of lies because telling people the truth is oft difficult. It takes courage to say and it’s painful to hear.
It’s easier to refer to a man in a dress as “she” if it avoids confrontation, but to what end? To refer to him instead by the rightful masculine pronouns is sacrificial, because it risks confrontation for the benefit of the afflicted individual, society, and truth. It is the right thing to do. This runs completely contrary to popular mantra, which dictates that there is compassion in a shared lie, but that’s the Hellward paving of good intentions.
As the society of lies seeks to defend itself from the illumination of truth, books on these topics are being banned from the largest booksellers of our age. That doesn’t just bar them from being sold at those enterprises, it disincentivizes them from being published at all, for publishers do not wish to publish that which they cannot sell. In this manner, ideas are exterminated, or at least shrouded in darkness. The society that once collectively decided on tolerance as the highest ideal has no tolerance for the truth that would cause a collapse of its shoddy foundation.
As we laud the supposed ‘compassion’ of those who participate in the deceit of today, what shall we say tomorrow to the thousands of people who seek to “detransition”, but who have been mutilated, drugged, and permanently damaged amid cheers from the gender movement and barely a whisper from others? Let us not confuse cowardice with compassion. Speak truth, for we owe it to those suffering, and we owe it to posterity.
Very good article. But I would also add that I don't believe the demand to use false pronouns is simply a result of misplaced compassion. I'm always reminded of the quote by Theodore Dalrymple ( Anthony Daniels ):
“Political correctness is communist propaganda writ small. In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, not to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better. When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is in some small way to become evil oneself. One's standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.”
So well stated. Wishing this article could find as wide an audience as possible. The truth as most still know it, will - as you stated - be lost within another generation unless resistance to this wicked plot by the devil is pursued publicly, loudly and strongly. The time has come for the ‘silent’ to raise our voices before it is too late.